Happy New Year 2012…n 2011…

Today is the 3rd day of what most believe to be the last year this earth will see and we’re already off to a good start. Iran has officially angered a lot of people by showing off their “guns” and various crystal-ball readers are already predicting the world’s demise…well this will make for a very eventful year…but let’s reminisce on 2011 for a quick minute….

What did I do in 2011 would be some people’s questions about 4 days back and I have been asking myself that as well, hence the post and the following list:

1) I finished grad school…to everyone’s surprise at that (even myself)!!) When I entered the MPH program with a conditional admission 2 years back, I had no confidence in me finishing the program, especially after my first biostat class. To add to the lack of confidence I had, the material covered was completely gibberish to me, I was in a city that was meant to visit and party in and not study. Amazingly enough (with the help of God and many friends) I was able to finish the program a little earlier than expected. My godfather actually couldn’t believe it either. While my parents flew down to watch me receive my diploma and currently have the original locked away, my dad reminds me that he still can’t believe I got my MPH in Miami of all places (especially after I tell him about stories of debacles and craziness my friends and I used to get into at FIU). While he mentions it because he can’t see how its physically and morally possible to party 5 days of the week and finish a 2 1/2 year program in 2 yrs, I have to remind him that I learned a lot in Miami, which brings me to my numero dos,

2) I have realized that my lifestyle will kill me. I know its a weird statement to make and probably a very pessimistic one at that. However, it actually has a optimistic tone to it in my mind. See I love to have fun, but above I love to help people have better lives. I have realized that what some look for in drugs I look for in helping others. Working at the Red Cross, Habitat for Humanity and all these other organizations I have had the chance to work for and with, I habe met a ton of people from various background and walks of life, and they have taught me a lot and brought me more than I could ever give back. The reason why I say that my lifestyle will kill me is that I love to help people and will work relentlessly at it, but will also have fun and go out with friends. When I look at a normal week in grad school, there were days I barely slept because I was doing one of three things: working, partying or helping. My mom hates the fact that I confer very little importance to my personal health or sleeping schedule, and she worries about me dropping which is a legit concern, but I just can’t get myself to change.

3) I debunked an old urban legend at FIU. There is this rumor that goes around FIU saying that if you step on the school seal at the entrance the student center (Graham Center for those who are familiar with it), you will graduate late. I can’t remember how many times I stepped on that thing and I still managed to finish early. I guess that one had a reverse effect on me. Go figure.

4) I matured. Believe it or not, I did (at least in comparison to the previous year!). I used to focus on the small stuff, stressed the futile things and worried too much. In 2011, I learned to not stress friendship that just weren’t meant to be and learn from them. I had a few friendships that went into the acquaintance basket simply because there was a lack of consideration. I think in 2010 I tried too hard to hold on to things that just weren’t worth trying so hard for. Mending relationships is a group effort and when the group just isn’t working with you, then there’s no need to keep working.

5) I moved (hopefully for the last time). I finally made the move to Canaada, which I hope will be the last major one (as in country to country). I lived for 12 years in the US (give or take) and I never really felt truly at home the way I do when I come up here. the recession-hit US was also a dead-end as far as jobs because there just aren’t enough and the unemployment rate is through the roof. There is no way I could have been able to compete with fellow graduates and veterans in my 2 fields of study to be able to get a job. The US economy has taken hits so hard the population is suffering a great deal; it would just be irrational to think that I would be considered a candidate for immigration especially when you look at the numbers (average residency applications per year in the US are around 300,000 and they have a backlog that’s prolly as big as half the total population).

6) I made long lasting memories with my G-Squad. From the crazy Vegas trip to the various little outings and trips I had with my people (they know who they are) 2011 was a year I played hard and loved every second of it. Does this mean 2012 is downtime; who knows. What I do know is that I set new precedence in my life and I do plan to finally sit down and write out my bucket list because I know that I have to outdo 2012. First of many on the list will be to spend a night in a ice hotel, whether in Quebec or the Scandinavian countries. A 2nd trip to the west coast will be a must of course, and a definite trip to my 5-year reunion in October followed by my 10-year reunion in 2013 (if the world is still around of course).

I think these 6 things embody what I believe to have been good and bad memories of 2011. We lost a few friends in 2011 and made new ones; may those who left us rest peacefully and keep our spots up there warm. God gave me the opportunity to see another year and I must make the best of it. Its not everyone that had this blessing and this something that should never leave anyone’s mind:

“Tomorrow isn’t promised, so make the best of today and remember to love, care, help those in need, party, and live your life as positively as humanly possible.”

Am I getting old??

I have always adhered to the theory that you are as old as you want to be. Was I blind and in denial to think that age doesn’t eventually catch up with you?? I still do believe that I am 26 year young and no one will change my mind about that but does society frown upon a person who has reached a certain age without accomplishing certain things or does society really not care. I have always pondered on that issue because I know of people who are stressed by that thought process. I, for one, am not a conformist and I strongly believe that it will be a cold day in hell before I sit and get depressed about being a certain age and not at a specific position in my life. I have been one of the children in my family who has not set any goals with a specific time line but I have once or twice mentioned that some people might question the lack of professional experience I may have to their eyes. I don’t believe that I am late for something or haven’t reached a step in my life set in stone because I have not set anything in stone. Some may say it may be my fear of failure that prompted me to not set things in stone, and they maybe right, but I like the way things are going in my life at this time because I have the most important thing one can ask for: the love and support of my family and friends.

Do I believe to have failed at some point? Yes, of course. It would be misconstrued to believe that one has never failed and quite honestly arrogant. I failed in keeping important people close. Grades? They honestly don’t count for me, cuz like material things, they can be changed. Then what about knowledge you may ask. Well, knowledge is never truly and fully obtained because we spend our lives learning whether through experience or textbooks and other people. I have always focused on learning through experience, which at times definitely had a negative impact on my grades (hence my views on grades), but the many and various experiences that I have had have taught many of the skills I have applied in my work ethic; it is through that work ethic that I have been able to leave my mark in the many places I have had the chance to work at. So should I start focusing on setting time lines and goals for my life?? Should I try to be a millionaire by 30??

I think I’m gonna let fate and the pursuit of continuous happiness solve that one for me.

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I’m a jerk…

Going through some of the boxes brought back from Baltimore, Montreal and Libreville, I have found a ton of things I thought were lost. Among those things were my autograph pages from my senior year in high school. Reading the comments my friends wrote made me realize that going into college, I became what I had hoped never to become: I became a jerk. 

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Why this conclusion? Simple, reading most of the comments left by my friends, I was told not to change and to always treat people right, especially one person in particular: my ex.  I became a jerk by trying to conform to the idea that college life was to be a huge party filled with out of control behavior. I must say, my freshman year was a joke and possibly a complete failure as I distanced myself from the people I should have stayed close to and embarked in out of control behavior that greatly impacted my grades, and my standing with the administration. Going into my sophomore year, however, I did try to make things right and salvage what was left of my GPA. Of course, the rest of my college life was filled with partying and studying, but I surrounded myself with the right people, made friendships that have lasted through good and bad and eventually was regarded as a leader by my peers.

I guess to better myself, I had to go through that experience of losing important friendships, partake in behaviors that got me reprimanded by the school (i.e. talking to Dr Seymour about late partying in the girls’ part of Copeland Hall)and see my grades hit hard by my lack of concentration. While I got away with some of the out of control behavior my freshman year, I do wish I had not turned into a jerk driven by the idea of a college experience fished out of movies like American Pie, Van Wilder or other similar movies. I should have done more to keep the relationships and friendships I cultivated in high school.

I, now, have gained more friendships and relationships than I could have hoped for and the people in my life all have played an important part to get me where I am now.  I have also grown a great deal and   continuing doing so every day through new experiences and cultivating new relationships with the many people I meet and who teach me new things. 

One Day by Matisyahu…..great song

sometimes I lay
under the moon
and thank God I’m breathing
then I pray
don’t take me soon
cause I am here for a reason
sometimes in my tears I drown
but I never let it get me down
so when negativity surrounds
I know some day it’ll all turn around
because
all my life I’ve been waiting for
I’ve been praying for
for the people to say
that we don’t wanna fight no more
they’ll be no more wars
and our children will play

it’s not about
win or lose cause
we all lose
when they feed on the souls of the innocent
blood drenched pavement
keep on moving though the waters stay raging
in this maze you can lose your way (your way)
it might drive you crazy but don’t let it faze you no way (no way)
sometimes in my tears I drown
but I never let it get me down
so when negativity surrounds
I know some day it’ll all turn around
because
all my life I’ve been waiting for
I’ve been praying for
for the people to say
that we don’t wanna fight no more
they’ll be no more wars
and our children will play

one day this all will change
treat people the same
stop with the violence
down with the hate
one day we’ll all be free
and proud to be
under the same sun
singing songs of freedom like

all my life I’ve been waiting for
I’ve been praying for
for the people to say
that we don’t wanna fight no more
they’ll be no more wars
and our children will play

I sit….

I sit and ponder on what the world has in store for us,
I sit and look at the world around me,
I sit and wonder where all these people are heading to,
I sit and check out the hot girl walking by,
I sit and study my notes for my test,
I sit at the coffee shop and sip on my tea,
I sit and eat,
I sit, I sit, I sit, maybe its time for me to get up and do my part

Catholicism in America

A friend sent me this and I couldnt resist at the idea of sharing this with everyone else….you all read it and tell me what you think….

Excerpts of an article written by non-Catholic Sam Miller – a prominent Cleveland Jewish businessman:

“Why would newspapers carry on a vendetta on one of the most important institutions that we have today in the United States , namely the Catholic Church?

Do you know – the Catholic Church educates 2.6 million students everyday at the cost to that Church of 10 billion dollars, and a savings on the other hand to the American taxpayer of 18 billion dollars. The graduates go on to graduate studies at the rate of 92%.

The Church has 230 colleges and universities in the U.S. with an enrollment of 700,000 students..

The Catholic Church has a non-profit hospital system of 637 hospitals, which account for hospital treatment of 1 out of every 5 people – not just Catholics – in the United States today.

But the press is vindictive and trying to totally denigrate in every way the Catholic Church in this country. They have blamed the disease of pedophilia on the Catholic Church, which is as irresponsible as blaming adultery on the institution of marriage.

Let me give you some figures that Catholics should know and remember. For example, 12% of the 300 Protestant clergy surveyed admitted to sexual intercourse with a parishioner; 38% acknowledged other inappropriate sexual contact in a study by the United Methodist Church , 41.8% of clergy women reported unwanted sexual behavior; 17% of laywomen have been sexually harassed.

Meanwhile, 1.7% of the Catholic clergy has been found guilty of pedophilia. 10% of the Protestant ministers have been found guilty of pedophilia. This is not a Catholic Problem.

A study of American priests showed that most are happy in the priesthood and find it even better than they had expected, and that most, if given the choice, would choose to be priests again in face of all this obnoxious PR the church has been receiving.

The Catholic Church is bleeding from self-inflicted wounds. The agony that Catholics have felt and suffered is not necessarily the fault of the Church. You have been hurt by a small number of wayward priests that have probably been totally weeded out by now.

Walk with your shoulders high and you head higher. Be a proud member of the most important non-governmental agency in the United States .

Then remember what Jeremiah said: ‘Stand by the roads, and look and ask for the ancient paths, where the good way is and walk in it, and find rest for your souls’. Be proud to speak up for your faith with pride and reverence and learn what your Church does for all other religions.

Please pass this on to every Catholic on your e-mail list..

Congratulations, you beat the light….

…but so did the other guys.

In the past 3 months, I have seen an alarmingly increase in the number of accidents at the 107th and 16th street intersection that separates my house from campus. while I have yet to witness one, I have had my fair share of witnessing fatal crashes.

What is alarming is that there have been at least 3 or 4 crashes involving FIU students, and yet I have not heard anything from the FIU administration about possibly endorsing some kind of educational effort to remind students, staff and faculty that “beating the light isnt worth a life”.
Today, I saw probably what seemed to be the worst one of all as one of the cars was actually flipped upside down. How long can this go on until the administration of the school and the authorities see that there is a serious problem at this intersection.

All I am saying is that this is too much!!! I think at this point, the student body, faculty and staff should be reminded of the fatalities linked to crashes. I have yet to hear of a student losing their lives at that specific intersection (although an international student did pass away over the summer in a car accident), but should we really wait until a life is taken to act??

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How BOY and GIRL withdraw cash from ATM

How a BOY withdraws cash from ATM.
1. Park the car
2. Go to ATM Machine
3. Insert card
4. Enter PIN
5. Take money out
6. Take ATM Card out
7. Drive away

How a GIRL withdraws cash from ATM
1. Park the car
2. Check makeup
3. Turn off engine
4. Check makeup
5. Go to ATM
6. Hunt for ATM card in the purse
7. Insert card
8. Hit Cancel
9. Hunt in purse for chit with PIN written on it
10. Insert card
11. Enter PIN
12. Take cash
13. Go to car
14. Check makeup
15. Start car
16. Stop car
17. Run back to ATM
18. Take ATM card
19. Back to car
20. Check makeup
21. Start car
22. Check makeup
23. Drive for 1/2 mile
24. Release handbrake

The break up…

So I’ve been dating this girl for the past 6 years now and everything is going great. We dated while I was in college and stayed together after college. While I was never a great believer in long distance relationships, I’m still amazed at how well it worked out. After college, we did decide to move in together and see how things work out. I mean, we were dating and our relationship was great, so we figured let’s take it to the next step. At fist, everything went great. Her parents loved me and my parents loved her, so as far as the family was concerned, everything was gravy. She impressed my mother, who I thought was going to be one of her greatest critique. Two years after we started dating, my parents even paid for me, her and her parents to go visit them on vacation. We had a great time at home and we came back afterwards, although she just wanted to stay with my parents because of all the fun.
Our parents teased us about our relationship because to them, there was no other step than to get engaged. Both our mothers even warned us that they’d disown us if we were to get married without telling them. Four years into our relationship, our parents took us all, me, her, her brother, my brothers and sister and went on a private cruise down in South Africa aboard a yacht that belonged to my uncle. We did meet up the night before at his vineyard before we sailed off the next morning. During dinner, he even offered to house the wedding the day it occurred. To some, the attention we were getting from both our families may have seemed overwhelming, but as it turns out, it was just the typical reaction of a parent seeing his/her daughter/son happy because they had found their soul mate.
Everyone did bring their significant other on the trip and we had a great time. Coming back after a week long cruise was hard, especially because we had a serious case of jetlag, but also because we had lost our sleeping habits. Once we got back home, we got back to our lives with the memories of a great trip. The cruise symbolized a lot more than just a simple week vacation with the people we loved the most; it portrayed what it could be like the day we got married. As you can tell, by then we both knew that marriage was the next big topic of our lives. So we talked a lot about it, and weighed in the pros and cons. The biggest pro was that we loved each other and we knew we were made for one another, the cons…..well, we couldn’t find any! So we told ourselves, we’d try to find cons before taking that step because we knew nothing in this world was one sided.
We searched for weeks for what could be the possible con; our families and friends got along great, there was no secrets we kept from each other, we matched and knew all there was to know about one another. It was then that we realized something: this was too good to be true!
After six years of dating, we came to the conclusion that our relationship was perfect. Our friends and families encouraged us in everything, and were pushing us to get married because to them, there was no way we couldn’t. A buddy of mine even came up to me and told me that of all the couples he had met in his life, we were the ones who showed him that there truly was a soul mate for every human being who would bring love and happiness. So to sum it up, everyone wanted to see us get married because they just couldn’t imagine it otherwise. So we did what everyone wanted us to do; we opened up to them and told them that we were thinking about it and greatly valued their input and encouragement. We promised to let them know when we’d make it official, because clearly, “even a blind man could see that we were getting engaged” as my brother told me, it was just a matter of time.
BUT-yes!!! In every history, there’s always a but- we both couldn’t get ourselves to find a con to our engagement. We got to a point where we would think up cons, and eventually would flush them down the toilet, simply because they were made up. So we decided to sum up our lives. In the past five and half years we had been together, we both went to college in the same country, miles away from each other, then graduated and moved in together, went on vacations with our families, and travelled the world together. Our friends and families got along great, and all wanted to attend our wedding, event that was inevitable to their eyes. So why couldn’t we make up our minds about getting hitched? We lived together, spent time together, lived a couple’s life in our apartment, and at first sight could have tricked anyone into thinking we were married. So we broke up and both went our separate ways for awhile. All our friends and families were shocked when we told them what we had done, and couldn’t figure out why we ended our relationships. They questioned us and harassed us for an explanation, an explanation they haven’t received, and probably never will.
My ex and I are the best friends in this world and get along great. We still hang out with our friends and go out with each other from time to time. Our friends can’t seem to be able to wrap their minds around the fact that we still have that flame in us that bonds us. Most people assume that when a couple breaks up, they are bound to never speak to each other and when they do, they do so in an immature fashion. Well, let me just say that it is a misconception that needs to be dealt with. People are different in many ways and react differently to certain things. It is true that our break was not caused by a major event-like infidelity, lies, or others- but that should stop people from getting along after ending a relationship. We were together for 8 years, did everything we could together, were each other’s firsts and even planned our wedding, and yet we mutually agreed to break up. The moral of the story? Simple; nothing is perfect, and all that seem perfect is meant to eventually break.

The Rules of the Game

Rule #1: Don’t assume your opponent is a fool until you knOw for a fact that he/she has falleN for it…for if you have doubts Then you’ve already lost

Rule #2: do not underestimate your opponent’s knowledge of it…For he/she has known far longer than yoU think to be playing the game…

Rule #3: hold only one truth….for if you try to live many….they will Crumble upon you….and all players will Know them all

Rule #4: Watch out for the darkness….for IT only reveals wHat you may believe to be secretive…

Rule #5: serve only one soul…for if you try to please your envy for control….you will end up controlled

Rule #6: you May not know…but you are a player in this game…for the decisions you madE….made you a willing partiCipant

Rule #7: if yoU feel that you may be at the center of the game….you probably are…because you put yourself there

Rule #8: be careful what you wish for…for your wishes will come true in a timely fashion…and the consequences of those impulses will be unbearable

Rule #9: if you are doubting the exclusivity of your partners…then you are definitely a pawn yourself…but in their game

Rule #10: upon realiZation of your pawnship…. guilt-tripping other parties to regain control is discouraged….because once they know, then yoU wiLL lose greatly

Rule #11: be careful of the walls….for the ones you have buiLt around your illusions may be thicker than the Ones you lean against when doing wrOng

Rule #12:your insecurities will only revealing just how deeply you are in the game….and will most definitely give you away and entertain other parties involved…for they have known and have been playing you as well

Rule #13: once set aSide, the right party shall become the arbitrary body of the gamE….assuming the responsibility of setting up rules and overseeing the game and its outcome….

Rule #14: comfort-zone shall be avoided as they will only create a false sense of victory

Rule #15: it is the smallest things and details that have betrayed you…therefore think wisely before trying to mislead others….for you are only fooling yourself if you believe that others are not onto you…rethink your strategy for it has greatly failed you…

Rule #16: morals are lost when playing this game…therefore, if you are a participating party, you must understand that all know that you have no morals